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How to get over heartbreak faster, for empaths
I wish this was one of those number-driven achievements I could add to my Linked-In profile. Successfully survived three heart-wrenching break-ups. I also wish I could say third time is a charm.
Yesterday, I woke up and blocked someone off my contacts. Yup, that was the first thing I did. Woke up, blocked and then brushed my teeth. What was surprising was how I went about my day, totally normal.
It was not denial. Part of me was in deep pain but I think the other part was fed up. I had to cut my losses short. If we want to use some sarcasm here, I guess practice makes perfect.
As empaths, we have a gift. We feel for people and we understand their needs. As empaths, we also have a weakness. We want to solve problems for emotionally unavailable people because we can put words to their emotions. We think we have pinpointed the root cause because we are able to embrace their pain and the source of their pain.
At this point, you will tell me 2 things:
- It is not my job to fix others
- Surely you must have noticed the patterns at some point
