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One Compliment a Day Keeps the Therapist Away
It was a windy day in Canada. Here, we do not have bad hair days, we have bad hair seasons.
A gust of wind defeated my loose ponytail and my hair blinded my eyes while walking. My hands were busy with grocery bags so I attempted to blow my hair away while cursing the weather.
I hear a voice out of nowhere: ‘Oh my god, your curls are gorgeous. I wish I had hair like yours’. Suddenly, nothing bothered me: not having my hair as visors, not the heavy bags, not the harsh Canadian April.
I had a spring in my step and made a new connection.
Science proves it
Neuroscientists have shown that the brain processes verbal positive cues just as financial rewards.
Even if we know expressing praise can have a positive effect, we sometimes hesitate.
We question whether our good faith will have the adverse reaction.We doubt that our well-intentioned comment might be taken the wrong away.
We might think that regularly commending people can have the opposite effect. But this abstract of a study concludes that the positive impact of multiple compliments has been undervalued.
